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Will you be loved up? Or stitched up?

Cyber criminals scam love-struck Brits out of £27 million according to the latest figures from the City of London Police and Get Safe Online

  • Victims of ‘romance’ scams lost an average of £10,000 to fraudsters
  • 62% of all victims aged between 40-69 account for over £16 million of total losses
  • Two thirds of scams originate on dating sites and a quarter via social media

Online dating fraud in the UK cost victims a heart-breaking £27 million last year, according to the latest stats from the City of London Police’s National Fraud Intelligence Bureau (NFIB) and Get Safe Online . Over 2,700 online dating related crimes were reported to the police over 12 months with the average loss standing at £10,000. However, the actual number of crimes is thought to be considerably higher, with victims not reporting them owing to embarrassment.

Almost two thirds (62%) of all victims are aged between 40-69 accounting for £16 million of the total losses. People aged between 50-59 are the most likely victims accounting for a quarter of all frauds and losing just over £6 million.those aged between 40-49 accounted for less of the reported fraud, (22%) overall losses were greater at £8 million.

Almost two thirds (64%) of all romance scams orinignated on dating sites, followed by social media (25%) and 10% via email. 2% of reported dating frauds orinigated via contact made on dating apps.

Tony Neate, CEO of Get Safe Online commented: “Online dating can be a great way to meet that special someone. However, it doesn’t hurt to place a little more caution when using these sites to start talking to someone, just as you would if you met a stranger in a bar or at a party.

“What’s frustrating is that there are a minority of people who use online dating as a forum to target vulnerable people, knowing if they invest a lot of time into building a relationship with someone, they could potentially steal a lot of money. This is demonstrated by the huge amount lost to online dating related crimes last year, with the average loss standing at a worrying £10,000.

“The financial loss is one thing, but it’s the emotional impact this sort of crime has which is severe. When someone places a lot of trust and faith in a person who they think they know, they often don’t separate their emotional feelings from rationale. Often when victims do start to suspect something isn’t quite right, they’re already in deep, so it’s extremely easy to ignore those little niggles of doubt and choose to trust someone – it’s this factor which online criminals exploit.

“It’s important to remember that it’s highly unlikely anyone legitimate would ask for any kind of financial assistance for whatever reason. Plus, if there are any immediate doubts, speak to a family member or friend to get a second, more objective opinion. If someone is keen to take their contact off the dating site very quickly, this could be a sign that they have something to hide.

“By following these steps, we hope we can put a stop to this targeted and emotional form of online crime.”

City of London Police’s Commander Chris Greany, the Police National Coordinator for Economic Crime said:

“Romance fraudsters are using every method available to exploit people looking for love - including dating websites, social media and direct emails. These heartless criminals will specifically target those who they deem to be vulnerable and most likely to fall for their scams. Our intelligence tells us that people aged 50-59 are the most likely to become a victim of dating fraud and therefore need to be especially careful when going online in search of a partner.

“Key advice to follow which will help you stay safe includes never sending funds to someone you have never met. If you’re in two minds always consult with a trusted friend or family member who will be able to view the situation objectively and provide another opinion on the situation.

“It is also very important that if you think you are being targeted or have been a victim of dating fraud to report to Action Fraud. Sharing this information will help us identify and track down these heartless criminals who have absolutely no regard for people’s emotional or financial well being”.

Tell-tale signs your online date may be a fraudster:

  • They want to communicate with you through instant messaging and texts, rather than through the dating website or chat room where you met

  • They ask you lots of questions about yourself, but don’t tell you much about themselves

  • They don’t answer basic questions about where they live and work

  • Their profile picture is too perfect – for example they look like an actor or Miss World titleholder

  • They start asking you to send them money using a number of different scenarios such as:

  • Claiming to be military personnel based overseas who require funds for flights home or early discharge from the forces

  • Citing medical related issues they need money for such as a sudden need for surgery, either for the fraudster or the fraudster’s family member

  • They’ve arranged to visit you but need money to pay travel costs

Get Safe Online recommends the following tips to make sure you’re safe online:

  • Trust your instincts - if you think something feels wrong, it probably is

  • Choose a site that will protect your anonymity until you choose to reveal personal information and that will enforce its policies against inappropriate use
  • Do not post personal information, such as phone numbers, on dating sites
  • Never send money or give credit card or online account details to anyone you don’t know and trust

  • Wait until you feel comfortable with an individual before telling them things like your phone number, place of work or address
  • Be extremely wary about removing clothes or doing other things in front of your webcam that could be used against you - even if you think you know the other party
  • Use a dating site that offers the ability to email prospective dates using a service that conceals both parties’ true email addresses
  • Set up a separate email account that does not use your real name
  • Pick a user name that does not include any personal information. For example, “joe_glasgow” or “jane_liverpool” would be bad choices
  • Finally, meet for the first few times in a safe place with plenty of people around, and tell a family member or friend where you are

If you think you have been a victim of fraud you should report it to Action Fraud, the UK’s national fraud reporting centre by calling 0300 123 20 40 or by visiting www.actionfraud.police.uk. For further advice on how to stay safe online go to www.GetSafeOnline.org.

About Get Safe Online

Get Safe Online (www.getsafeonline.org), which is now entering its tenth year, is the UK’s national internet security awareness initiative. A joint partnership between the Government, the National Crime Agency (NCA), Ofcom, law enforcement bodies and private sector sponsors from the worlds of technology, communication, retail and finance, the initiative continues to educate, inform and raise awareness of internet security issues to encourage confident, safe use of the internet. GetSafeOnline.org is supported by Barclays, Bob’s Business, Creative Virtual, HM Government, HSBC, Kaspersky Lab, Lloyds Banking Group, National Crime Agency (NCA), Symantec, Action Fraud, Ofcom, HSBC, Microsoft, PayPal, Symantec, Standard Life, Gumtree, Camelot, Detica, StubHub, Nominet, PurchaseSeal, ValidSoft, Business Link, Charity Commission, Citizens Advice, The Association of Chief Police Officers (ACPO), Information Systems Security Association (ISSA), e-Crime Wales, Information Risk Management Plc, Institute of Information Security Professionals (IISP), RG (Interactive Media in Retail Group), The International Association of Accountants Innovation & Technology Consultants (IAAITC), The Internet Services Providers’ Association (ISPA), Neighbourhood and Home Watch, PTA-UK, SafeBuy, Safer Jobs, Scottish Crime & Drug Enforcement Agency, Scottish Police College, The Scottish Business Crime Centre and UK Online Centres. If you are interested in becoming a partner or supporter of Get Safe Online, please visit: https://www.getsafeonline.org

About the City of London Police’s Action Fraud and the National Fraud Intelligence Bureau

Action Fraud is the UK’s national fraud and cyber crime reporting centre where all fraud should be reported. All reports made to Action Fraud are reviewed by the National Fraud Intelligence Bureau (NFIB) which then decides whether they should be used for enforcement, intelligence or disruption activity. You can report a fraud to Action Fraud online at www.actionfraud.police.uk or by speaking to one of their specialist fraud advisers on 0300 123 2040.

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